No matter how laid back you are, it’s inevitable that during the planning of your wedding, there will be a few disagreements and compromises along the way!
Your wedding day is a big deal to both of you, and so it should be. You’ll both have different loves and ideals, so it’s all about working out what’s important…and no, not just to you, to your partner too…and creating a day that suits you both overall.
Conflict is never easy during the planning of such a big deal event, so at the beginning of the planning, we highly recommend that you both write down the 3 most important and 3 least important things that should / shouldn’t feature on your wedding day – these should be things that really do / don’t matter to you, and you should give your reasons as to why.
You’re likely to find that there’s some synergy in your answers, so where there is, ensure that you both prioritise these, and where there isn’t, each give really good reasons as to why they’re important so that you can discuss them – and if necessary write a pros and cons list…’I just like it’ won’t cut it, but ‘it really means a lot to me because…’ will.
Come to an agreement where if you compromise over one element of your day, your partner should compromise over another, and if the compromise comes down to money, think of ways in which you can both make a lifestyle saving each month, perhaps stop the coffee a day purchase, or delay having your nails done until near the end of your planning, as these savings will soon add up, and may help overcome those scenarios where you can’t agree!
Overall, whilst opposing views are frustrating, they’re inevitable – but what matters, and what you should focus on, is that you both get married with your nearest and dearest in attendance and celebrate!
* credit: 'Freya' love letters in main image by Whitewed approved Burnt Orange